Looking forward…

One year on I find myself further along the road of self discovery, with greater positivity and more focus. Onwards!!

It feels easier to be looking forward…

The targets to achieve have had to be found within myself, which has been tough!

Now that the worst of the dark days of winter are over, the weather is giving glimmers of brighter weather, moving forward is on the agenda.

I’m not alone in these feelings of finding it hard, am I?

Working for myself, has been a huge change in my way of life, and at times quite a lonely place. Never worse than in the dreary Uk winter!

No distractions of a team, but none of the pressures either, which has been liberating, but also difficult at times.

Some self reflection has been necessary to move forward.

I recognise this is part of my journey and time has given me space to look at:-

  • who I am emotionally

  • where my strengths lie

  • whom I like connecting to

  • what I find challenging

  • what I need to improve on

  • where I am in my life and what next

  • what opportunities are available to me

This will make me stronger in the long run and more able to focus on where I am heading.

I need to be able to set my targets to continue to be successful and build my practice!

I have tried to embrace these steps for happiness but not always found it easy putting them into practice.

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The first one is particularly relevant, with too much analysing becoming distracting, but may be necessary at my stage of working for myself?

Some exploring has had to be done to gain self acceptance, be able to love more and appreciate more. 

This process may be tough but is beneficial for your skills and experience when working with clients, to understand their blocks and challenges.

Personally I am now more connected with how fortunate I am to have this opportunity to work for myself and build a business.

I am able to feel proud of my achievements to date.

I am engaged with what I can offer others, in order to support clients to make changes.

The outcome is I am planning future services which will help and support people to improve their well being.      So all round benefits.

This is an ongoing journey but acceptance has enabled me to move forward from where I was in my life and feel more focused.

 

 

 

 

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New year, new you?

2018!!

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What do you wish to change?

Looking for help…

to start taking some small steps

which day by day

sustained over time

will set you on a journey

to a new you?

 

We all know what we may need to do, but actually setting it into our lifestyle and moving forward with it, is much more challenging.

 

Would you like support with?

-Feeling more positive

-Eating more healthily

-Being more active

-Stopping smoking

-Pain management

I can explore with you a way forward.

With years of working with all types of people, to empower them to make health improving changes and more recent skills in coaching and hypnotherapy, we can look together at what you wish to address.

Then work on the how!

Just check out my website… and get in contact.

Happy New Year!!

 

 

 

 

Anxiety

Anxiety,  is a  little word

but with a

big impact.

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Anxiety is the sensation of being on high alert, otherwise recognised as the “fight or flight response”.

This is a normal body function. When faced with a threat, the body responds via the sympathetic nervous system and hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis and shifts into gear to prepare you for action. Your body is mobilising resources to mobilise body and brain.

This normal response gives physical symptons of shortness of breath, fluttering in the stomach, racing heartbeat and sweating and emotionally you may start to feel fearful.

This sense of being ready for action was necessary in the days when we lived in caves and lived a primitive life. We often had to use our body physically and this gave an outlet for the energy build up.

Nowadays you may need to be on high alert in different situations, maybe to present a speech to a large group or a discussion with your boss if a confrontation is brewing which needs to be addressed. Then your body prepares, to sharpen your attention, so you can set about performing. This performance is an outlet for the build up of energy.

Unfortunately humans are unique in that a danger doesn’t have to be present to give us this response, we can conceptualise it. Neuroscientist Bruce McEwen says “the mind is so powerful that we can set off the [stress] response by imagining ourselves in a threatening situation”. Is it this ability that can cause people to be stuck rumminating and anticipating a stressful situation and being stuck in the stress response, leading to a state of anxiety?

We may have lost sight of where some of our body processes come from but we need to recognise them to make them work for us. Unchecked we can easily drift into symptons we know associate with anxiety.

How can we recognise our reactions, acknowledge them and make them work for us in modern life?

Sounds like action is needed!

  1. Recognition and understanding is the first step.
  2. Time out in the fresh air, dog walking, connecting with nature, or any exercise which suits your lifestyle, is a must.
  3. Relaxation of the mind, accompanying exercise, or in the form of meditation, mindfulness or hypnosis.

This gives you time to disconnect from your concerns and enjoy the physicality of movement and/or of emptying your mind – preferably both!!

If this is a challenge and you are finding activity difficult to incorporate into your week,  sessions with a Hypnotherapist can help you to identify what you need to focus on for yourself, to promote better well-being.

The outcome is harnessing the energy  of your body and mind to work with you!

Don’t strain Little Brain

Struggling with overload or overwhelm?

Not feeling like you are performing at your best?

Become aware of how you are contributing to you own frazzlement!

 

A book on well being and resilience…

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This book presents a compelling picture of what we do to ourselves on a daily basis, sometimes on an hourly basis, and what we could do instead.

It summarises and simplifies a wealth of current writing and research on neuroscience and related fields of personal well being.

Offering practical insights into the challenges to overcome, and the simple solutions which can make this possible.

Gain a better understanding of what you’re doing, how you can do things differently, enabling you to feel stronger and more resilient.

Certainly worth a look!

 

 

 

 

Being a ‘good enough’ parent…

A parent needs to be ‘good enough’at offering the love, care and attention to meet the needs of their child. Understanding their stage of development is important. Having fun, giving opportunities and embracing other family members and friends, to help raise a child, creates great pleasure and feels less like hard work.

I love this blog, except for the reference to the Almighty which is personal choice.

~ ~ ~ There is no such a thing as perfect parenthood Who is the paragon of father or mother Claim to have a one size fits all formula Children are unique and special Have different talents but same potential Minds like sponges, soak in as much as available A secure environment and loving care […]

via Parenting — The Shower of Blessings

Connecting with nature to reduce anxiety?

Hopefully you’ve had some time away over the summer months – space to reconnect with who you are and what you enjoy in your life.

Some moments to really appreciate where you are in your life.

If  you’ve struggled to achieve this on account of some thoughts, feelings or behaviours and reducing your ability to refresh and revitalise, maybe you would benefit from some support?

Is anxiety in the background?

Source:  This previous blog on Anxiety may be helpful.

Boundaries

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Feeling put upon?

Think people take advantage of your good nature?

Take many things in your stride on a daily basis and then suddenly everything goes pop!!

Maybe you like to think you are easy going and accommodating of other people.

Are you kidding yourself?!!

Is it really that you are not standing up for yourself and not setting a boundary?

 

We all need boundaries to feel safe but also to perform well.

Boundaries:-

– set limits for ourselves and others.

– are guided by our beliefs and values.

– help us identify with the ideals and principles we live by.

– draw a line between what is acceptable for us and what is not.

Boundaries need to exist in most aspects of our lives.

Without them, or with blurring of the edges, we can become anxious, stressed and muddled.

Do you need to wake up and establish where yours are?

They may relate to habits, hobbies, career choices and leisure time.

They may be different in lifestyle, friendship and living norms.

Which boundaries do you need to review?

Exploring concerns with a therapist may help you to define yours!!

Positive psychology & wellbeing

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There is a growing recognition of the impact our mental health has on our sense of well being.

The mind body connection!

How we think, feel and behave affects how our body functions.

If you are caught in a negative pattern of thinking, over time this will impact on your physical well being. This is why positive thought is so important in improving our outcome for good health.

Mental health affects our physical health.

Fine when you are in a good, positive place – what if your not!!

The first step of changing how we perform is recognition that we could do something different.

It may not feel like it, but our actions are our choices!?

Changing thoughts, feelings and actions can be very difficult to do, but by having a vision of how things could be different is the start of the process.

Support

to take small steps towards this new way of being is essential.

In my work as an Integrated therapist I help clients to identify their new intention and set goals using NLP, Psycho therapeutic coaching and possibly Hypnotherapy.

The power of the mind is amazing, use it to your full advantage.

 

 

Improving health by writing!

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We all have heard a problem shared is a problem halved…

but what if no friends are available and you need to express yourself?

Writing down your thoughts to express your concerns, worries and connect with your feelings may be an option.

Writing can give many therapeutic benefits:-

  • help to calm your mind by giving you a focus

  • document a journey

  • help to express feelings and release emotions

  • help to reduce worry

  • assist in processing difficult situations

  • create a sense of direction

  • help to formulate some goals

  • give a sense of achievement

  • improve sleep

 

Writing can take many forms:-

journaling

documenting, to help process your thoughts

a letter to yourself or others (best not to send, but can help to clarify your feelings)

blogging

free writing

a gratitude diary

list making

doodling

 

There is a body of evidence developing which indicates that if you write a list of specific tasks you need to do for the next day, as you go to bed, it helps reduce rumination (repetitive thoughts). This reduces the time you take to go to sleep.

Better sleep helps the processing of challenges in your life and improves well being.

 

Pick up a pen!

 

Why try hypnotherapy?

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Ever wanted to change something about yourself?

Improve a response, a habit, or a way of interacting with others?

Known what you needed to do, but felt like the steps to make the change, particularly sustain change, were too difficult?

Hypnotherapy has the advantage of bypassing the conscious mind, allowing you to access your subconscious and unblock thoughts and behaviour patterns which are influencing you, which you may be unaware of. Hypnotherapy helps you connect with your inner resources and encourage change to occur more readily.

A small change in your responses or actions can cause a ripple effect, which over time, and with practice, can bring great change.

A little nervous about visiting a Hypnotherapist?

Please don’t be! We enter hypnotic states naturally everyday, such as when we daydream or are lost in reading something, and this state can create a feeling of calmness and inner focus. Whilst in a hypnotic trance like state we can still hear what is happening around us and do not respond to anything we do not wish to do. We are also in a state of heightened awareness and are more suggestible to making changes which will benefit our life.

By working with a Hypnotherapist this natural state can be utilised to build your confidence and motivation so you feel more empowered too.

A boost to your confidence and self efficacy enables you to take the steps to use skills. This is the beginning of the change process.

What are you waiting for?

Contact me today to discuss what health and well being issues you wish to work on.

You can check out my skills on the Hypnotherapy Directory.