Gratitude

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During the month of May I was part of a gratitude group where each member posted 5 things each day what they were grateful for.

For me this was usually in the evening time as I settled down for sleep!

Gratitude and the practice of being grateful either through writing in a diary, making a list or sharing with others has become popular in recent years. These varied activities  help to produce feelings of gratitude which can guide people towards meaning and better health.

Noticing and expressing gratitude helps to focus your attention on the positive things in your life.

Life has many ups and downs, twists and turns, creating conflict and at times we may feel overwhelmed by the challenges.

Trying to pick out the good points of the day was interesting and sometimes quite specific. However often it was a general feeling of gratefulness for the fullness of life and a connection to a meaning for what was occurring.


 

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes

to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have

contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in

your gratitude.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

 


It is a feeling similar to appreciation and positive psychology research has found neurological reasons why people benefit from the practice of expressing thanks for our lives, even in times of challenge and change.

I noticed that over time it really focused my mind and my thoughts onto what was good or great in my life.

It kept the focus positive!

 

Hearing from people around the world, my friend has international contacts, who felt thankful for small pleasures, was truly heartwarming. Often they had definite health challenges, financial or relationship concerns but even in the darkest moments small gestures could identified. Their appreciation and hope was uplifting.

This month I have not been doing the gratefulness diary and my mood has dipped into more negativity than is useful. Is this a coincidence?

At the time I felt little benefit but in hindsight, oh the beauty of hindsight, a boost to positivity and feeling of well being was definitely felt.

I will be practising my gratitude again from tonight!

What about you?

 

Jo Copland-Dando is an Integrated Hypnotherapist and Coach with a background in Health. She works on many issues affecting well being. As a specialist in Anxiety,  she works with AnxietyUk to support clients. In a quiet space she supports clients from a purpose built, safe and confidential garden room, situated between Bath and Bristol.
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Challenges of life

Into the swing of 2019 🙂

Started the year with some goals to aim for, with a plan to stay calm so

you could work steadily towards what you wished to achieve…?

 

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Past week 3

and already having feelings which overwhelm??

 

Those challenges you could forget for some time, with festive food and cheer to distract you, are now a firm reality. The carefree December days of frivolity have dropped into the cold, short, debt ridden days of January and seem to stretch far into the coming months.

Hence talk today of #BlueMonday – I wont spell it out as some may feel it’s too negative to focus on!

Don’t despair… It’s difficult to find the enthusiasm and motivation when life is feeling like this but it will get brighter. 

 

Focus instead on small steps to feel more positive:-

– Eat nutritious meals when you can to boost your energy levels.

– Make time to get outside and connect with nature, to boost mood.

 – Plan social meet ups for a cuppa at home and a chat, if money is tight,   or incorporate a catch up with a dog walk or getting out in the           countryside.

– Wrap up warm and nurture yourself – consider the art of hygge for  the winter months.

– Practice gratitude and start writing a journal as you go to bed, to build your skills.

– Talk to yourself kindly and focus on some positive affirmations.

 

Don’t try to achieve too much it is the winter after all and many creatures hunker down in the colder months and save their energy until the spring. Do what you have to but take it steady.

Don’t be too hard on yourself!

 

It’s more challenging to keep focused and upbeat when the reality of daily life seems relentless, but find the moments of peace…

In time consider possible plans for the summer so you have events or holiday time to look forward to…

Jo Copland-Dando is an Integrated Hypnotherapist and Coach with a background in Health. She works on many issues of well being from a purpose built, safe and confidential space. As a specialist is Anxiety,  she works with AnxietyUk to support clients.