Looking forward…

One year on I find myself further along the road of self discovery, with greater positivity and more focus. Onwards!!

It feels easier to be looking forward…

The targets to achieve have had to be found within myself, which has been tough!

Now that the worst of the dark days of winter are over, the weather is giving glimmers of brighter weather, moving forward is on the agenda.

I’m not alone in these feelings of finding it hard, am I?

Working for myself, has been a huge change in my way of life, and at times quite a lonely place. Never worse than in the dreary Uk winter!

No distractions of a team, but none of the pressures either, which has been liberating, but also difficult at times.

Some self reflection has been necessary to move forward.

I recognise this is part of my journey and time has given me space to look at:-

  • who I am emotionally

  • where my strengths lie

  • whom I like connecting to

  • what I find challenging

  • what I need to improve on

  • where I am in my life and what next

  • what opportunities are available to me

This will make me stronger in the long run and more able to focus on where I am heading.

I need to be able to set my targets to continue to be successful and build my practice!

I have tried to embrace these steps for happiness but not always found it easy putting them into practice.

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The first one is particularly relevant, with too much analysing becoming distracting, but may be necessary at my stage of working for myself?

Some exploring has had to be done to gain self acceptance, be able to love more and appreciate more. 

This process may be tough but is beneficial for your skills and experience when working with clients, to understand their blocks and challenges.

Personally I am now more connected with how fortunate I am to have this opportunity to work for myself and build a business.

I am able to feel proud of my achievements to date.

I am engaged with what I can offer others, in order to support clients to make changes.

The outcome is I am planning future services which will help and support people to improve their well being.      So all round benefits.

This is an ongoing journey but acceptance has enabled me to move forward from where I was in my life and feel more focused.

 

 

 

 

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Being a ‘good enough’ parent…

A parent needs to be ‘good enough’at offering the love, care and attention to meet the needs of their child. Understanding their stage of development is important. Having fun, giving opportunities and embracing other family members and friends, to help raise a child, creates great pleasure and feels less like hard work.

I love this blog, except for the reference to the Almighty which is personal choice.

~ ~ ~ There is no such a thing as perfect parenthood Who is the paragon of father or mother Claim to have a one size fits all formula Children are unique and special Have different talents but same potential Minds like sponges, soak in as much as available A secure environment and loving care […]

via Parenting — The Shower of Blessings

Positive psychology & wellbeing

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There is a growing recognition of the impact our thoughts have on our sense of well being.

The mind body connection!

How we think, feel and behave affects how our body functions.

If you are caught in a negative pattern of thinking, over time this will impact on your physical well being. This is why positive thought is so important in improving our outcomes for good health.

Mental thoughts/mental health affects our physical health.

Fine when you are in a good, positive place – what if your not!!

The first step of changing how we perform is recognition that we could do something different.

It may not feel like it, but our actions are our choices!?

Changing thoughts, feelings and actions can be very difficult to do, but by having a vision of how things could be different, is the start of the process.

Then repetitive positive thoughts and action creates new habits!

Support…

to take small steps towards this new way of being is essential.

In my work as an Integrated therapist I help clients to identify their new intention and set goals using NLP, Psycho therapeutic coaching and often Hypnotherapy. This accesses the sub conscious where changes can be made more effectively.

Exploration of your thinking patterns to challenge beliefs, and skills to support practise are key. Through visualisation of new approaches this enables you to feel it and make it real.

The more we think positive thoughts, and practice thinking positively, the more this becomes your new way of being.

The power of the mind is amazing, use it to your full advantage.

 

 

Daffodils = hope

I love sunshine falling on the dancing daffodils.

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They bring such freshness and hope for the warmer weather.

This has a boosting affect on mood and sense of well being. Not always of course, but their blooming does signify spring time and renewal.

Time to clear out the old and bring in freshness – spring clean!

Not only physically, but mentally too.

What changes do you wish to make for this summer?

Any old habits getting you down?

Stuck in patterns which stop you from achieving what you would like from life?

Time to start thinking about feeling good and looking good, so you can enjoy getting out and about in the summer!!

Now is a great time for growth! Try new things?

A session with a coach or hypnotherapist can help you set your intention, look at how you live your life now and find the small steps that will put you on a different path.

Want to try something new and make a change? Contact me to discuss?

I look forward to it!

 

 

 

 

Glimmers of spring

Hoping for some more days like this!

We’ve had a few sunny days, but then it goes cloudy with a chilly wind again. Its tempting not to venture far from your warm and hopefully cosy home.

To boost well being its always good to get outside.

Some reasons to get out and about:-

As a dog owner/befriender you can wrap up warmly and get out there, as they insist on this several times a day!!

Explore with children the parks, woodlands or public footpaths and observe the bursting buds of bushes, trees and plants or of new animal life. Help them to learn about the wonders of our nature and countryside.

The garden is always beckoning at this time of year so small jobs to clear, tidy and prepare for the bursting forth of plants and vegetables, during any clear spells, helps to boost positive feelings. Plan the garden of the summer!

With an improving picture, planning to meet friends and family for gatherings out and about in new places or old haunts. Helps with reconnecting after the winter hibernation.

Lighter nights,with the clocks going forward this weekend, ensures more daylight and opportunities to attend all kinds of social events. Consider taking up an activity in the evening of these lighter nights. Get out on your bike, join a club or like me find a running buddy? Keeping active to improve your health.

Community events are planned in parks, villages, halls and the countryside which engage people with all kinds of skills and entertainment.This brings a sense of hope and interest as opportunities to connect in many different ways, socialise and have fun are apparent.

Volunteering time and skills to benefit your local community gives the individual a sense of  well being too. Volunteers may work in buildings to offer services for individuals or organisations, but it can be outdoors too. A sense of contribution and involvement are the powerful positive feelings this type of commitment brings.

So it all looks good!

Certainly it is an improving picture.

All activity and connecting with nature is good for our body and minds, so it is great to be able to plan more of both of these into the coming weeks.

So get planning and hope you enjoy the sunny, warmer moments this weekend.

 

Jo Copland-Dando is an Integrated Hypnotherapist and Coach with a background in Health. She works on many issues affecting well being. As a specialist in Anxiety,  she works with AnxietyUk to support clients. In a quiet space she supports clients from a purpose built, safe and confidential garden room, situated between Bath and Bristol.

Looking forward…

This post I wrote last year and I find myself further along the road of self discovery, with greater positivity and more focused. Onwards!!

It feels easier to be looking forward…

The targets to achieve have had to be found within myself, which has been tough!

Now that the worst of the dark days of winter are over, the weather is giving glimmers of brighter weather, moving forward is on the agenda.

I’m not alone in these feelings of finding it hard, am I?

Working for myself, has been a huge change in my way of life, and at times quite a lonely place. Never worse than in the dreary Uk winter!

No distractions of a team, but none of the pressures either, which has been liberating, but also difficult at times.

Some self reflection has been necessary to move forward.

I recognise this is part of my journey and time has given me space to look at:-

  • who I am emotionally

  • where my strengths lie

  • whom I like connecting to

  • what I find challenging

  • what I need to improve on

  • where I am in my life and what next

  • what opportunities are available to me

This will make me stronger in the long run and more able to focus on where I am heading.

I need to be able to set my targets to continue to be successful and build my practice!

I have tried to embrace these steps for happiness but not always found it easy putting them into practice.

july-2016-028

The first one is particularly relevant, with too much analysing becoming distracting, but may be necessary at my stage of working for myself?

Some exploring has had to be done to gain self acceptance, be able to love more and appreciate more. 

This process may be tough but is beneficial for your skills and experience when working with clients, to understand their blocks and challenges.

Personally I am now more connected with how fortunate I am to have this opportunity to work for myself and build a business.

I am able to feel proud of my achievements to date.

I am engaged with what I can offer others, in order to support clients to make changes.

The outcome is I am planning future services which will help and support people to improve their well being.      So all round benefits.

This is an ongoing journey but acceptance has enabled me to move forward from where I was in my life and feel more focused.

 

 

 

 

Motivation

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Working from home with no structure, few social interactions, and erratic focus can take heaps of motivation to make stuff happen.

Where does your motivation come from?

If like me you have been motivated to learn new things and expand your mind to new ways of working, but have always had a job which has driven you towards targets, then most of your motivation has been external.

To work successfully and productively by yourself takes internal discipline, planning and steady focus, to get your plans into action.

No work = no earnings

I found this straight forward in the early months but struggled with dips in motivation as time progressed. It takes your ongoing mental focus and commitment! OMG!!! Tricky at times.

How to get the project off the ground!!

Consider your existing network – who can you link in with to discuss ideas, insights, and make opportunities?

Broaden your links with the local community – business network, volunteer locally and make new connections. Can you offer services to others?

 Seek support – from professionals supporting businesses, discuss issues with ex colleagues, family and friends, people already in your new field. Be open to different ideas and ways of developing.

Identify some mentors – people you admire, who have some of the qualities you may need to develop. One person may display several attributes which may motivate you to expand different skills.

Be approachable  – discuss your business and what you can offer at every social contact. People are always interested in new services and how it could support their family and friends.

Be brave – use business cards, flyers, social media and discussion with all your contacts at each opportunity, to raise your profile.

All of this takes time and patience.

In the meantime booster your motivation by booking in regular meetings over a cuppa or snack with a variety of contacts. Meet at a cafe, someones home or do an activity eg. go for a walk. Exercise is a great booster of wellbeing too.

FOCUS, SOCIAL CONNECTION AND GROWTH LEADS TO MOTIVATION!

Plan to get out for a short period each day to give some structure to the week.

Word of mouth and recommendations will soon start business flourishing  if you’re offering a great service.

What’s Holding You Back?

This is so true – take heed.

Trust your gut instinct, think positive, make changes and go for it!

“Don’t let anything hold you back from your dreams” Many times when we’re going after our dreams and aspirations it always seems like there’s something holding us back. Rather its monetary issues, family, naysayers etc. When we are on the road to greatness usually we run across some type of setback. That can sometimes derail […]

via What’s Holding You Back? — Jay Colby

Uni visits

It’s pouring rain and we are wandering around the Uni buildings –

reception, sign in & general info, drink to acclimatise and funding!!

the student union, lecture theatre, accommodation & library.

3 hours later & all done?

Inspiration and a direction/focus identified?!?  

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A troubling, anxiety ridden time for lack lustre teenager & parent/s.                                    

Your teenager is growing up rapidly and looking for their direction in life, wanting independance but also at times lacking confidence and feeling unsure about all the decisions to be made.

As a parent it can be very tricky supporting and guiding during this period, without seeming to be over controlling and exasperated.

Mood and motivation are big challenges –

Anxiety and depression can be a common feature of this stage of life and accessing appropriate help can be tricky. Where can a teenager express their feelings without being judged?

Often some simple changes can be made to help them achieve their dreams?

Exploring  and finding some small steps to take, with a hypnotherapist, can start that process.

Looking at what strengths and skills the young adult has and accessing internal resources to build on what we as parents know they have within, can give them confidence to make more positive choices.

Some small changes can make a big shift, change the trajectory and find the right outcome.

Re-focusing, to notice the good things in our lives – boosts our mood.

imageIt is often more challenging to feel happy:-

as the nights draw in and the days become shorter

the days become dull and misty

the cold season rapidly approaches

But don’t dispair!!

A few minutes each day, to reaffirm what is good in our lives, can prevent this becoming a challenge.

Try these simple exercises to refocus your attention and boost your mood!

via 5 Science-Backed Strategies for More Happiness – Mindful